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I have a question: How man BBW and SSBBW really WANT to be BBW and SSBBW?

This is my first time joining a BBW site, and so far, so good. I see lot's of women who are happy with their size, comfortable in their own bodies, and just happy to be themselves. What I want to know, however, is whether or not BBW and SSBBW WANT to be such, or if they've found acceptance and happiness where they're at. For instance, if you could lose 25, 50, 75, however many pounds it would take to make you "Thick" or ever "Skinny," would you do it? Or would you say, "EFF THAT! I LIKE being this size" and stay the way you are?

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Permalink Reply by Vagina Dentata [[Superior.Orb]] on May 17, 2009 at 11:23pm: Sigh,I have lost massive amount of weight in the past and consequentially, I know what I look like thick and even borderline skinny.....AND I LOVE IT...its just I figured out its me I love not my body, and it didn't really matter then what my body looked like.I was even a program director for Jenny Craig( while I was fat mind you).I have always known what I needed to do to be skinny, I simply didn't care enough to put in the effort.
I dislike being fat ,again not because I don't like me, but I'm from an island, and being half naked is a HUGE part of island life, surfing, hanging out at the beach, jumping carnival, or just not dying of heat stroke usually requires skimpier clothing.Physical fitness is needed too, to do a lot of thing that I felt like I missed out on(hiking, rock climbing,dancing in the blazing sun on a 4 miles stretch, there and back mind you, carrying a large carnival costume without dying).
When my weight began to affect the quality of life I led, THAT'S when I decided it had to go.....but also, I love shoes and clothes...my grandmother's closet is overflowing with vintage couture that I could be prancing around in riiiiiiiiiiiight now.I want to wear a Monique Lhuillier dress if it kills me,I want to wear shorts and not worry how my thighs look, I want to not spontaneously sweat if I ingest some booze..so....there's no target weight in mind...I'll stop when I think I look good ( and I can fit a fuckin Lhuillier dress)
This time around it wasn't about being super skinny, its about feeling confident enough to do the things I like doing...I know a lot of that seems shallow...but I think every little fat girl has seen that 1 dress that she would kill babies to have...but alas....it doesn't come in her size..I know I could have someone make me a bigger dress...but I feel like that's the lazy way out, hold on dress, I'm coming!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Chick-fil-A on May 18, 2009 at 2:26am: Mel, you have encouraged me, even all this time since we met here in 07' you're strikingly gorgeous and as a big girl, you got it going on. And I mean every word I say, you're confident, beautiful, and you have a great sense of style! I'm really glad to have met you.

The truth is ladies, as women, thin or big, we are programmed to hate ourselves at some point in life. But at the end of the day, skinny or big, we all have to face our SELVES and what feels right to us. Even thinner women have problems and a helluva lotta competition haha. I walk into a room, and as a big girl, I've grown to know that all eyes on me, whether in spite or admiration, are only there because I choose to put on a sexy, confident attitude. Yes, I'd love to be a size 12/14 because I'd feel much healthier and loosing my doublechin wouldn't hurt either hehe, but I obviously don't want it bad enough because I haven't really stuck to changing anything. Love you first, and perhaps your mind will lead you in the right direction to want to be healthy. Shoot, if you have confidence, a great support system, a great lover, friends, you got it going on! Big girls are beautiful! We rock shit, we demand attention, especially when we look our best. That's why they hate hehe. Remember, back in the day, we were worshiped for our curves, personality, and royalty, because if he was rolling with a skinny bitch- he wasn't eating hehe.

Until then, be you and love yourself, you only get one you and you're as beautiful as you make yourself, big or thin.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Loz on May 18, 2009 at 8:00am: EXACTLY!

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Permalink Reply by Vagina Dentata [[Superior.Orb]] on May 18, 2009 at 3:25pm: awww you made me tear up! bad girl! You have not only a beautiful exterior but a beautiful spirit and THAT'S what made me want to call you 2 am and talk for hours lol!! I'm tickled that the same things I see in you, you appear to see in me! what a fuckin love fest!
I agree whole heartedly with what you're saying too, if you can love yourself no matter how big or small you are, then size doesn't truly matter, and if you make those steps to lose weight solely for yourself then I think its then not because you feel inferior but simply because you want to.I eat cookies because I want to, but I also work out now, because I want to. I have truly gotten to a place where whatever body I happen to be in, I love the fuck outta that body.That doesn't diminsh with the shedding of extra weight, or heighten either.I am mel no matter the package, and I love mel unconditionally ( some may add to the level of arrogance ahahahha).; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Chick-fil-A on May 18, 2009 at 3:46pm: Anytime lady! When will you be back in MD? We need to hang:D; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Jewels Mystery on May 18, 2009 at 8:56am: I love my curves, mounds and whatever else comes along with it. If it wasn't for knee and back problems, I probably wouldn't lose a pound. I've been skinny and now a ssbbw. It is never greener on the other side. I have known people who lost all that weight and still find issues with themselves. We are all fantastic women regardless of what size we are.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by tammy on May 24, 2009 at 9:55am: There is a huge difference between accepting being a BBw and liking being a BBW. It seems a lot of women on this site have learned to accept it and make the most of the fact that they are BBWs but I bet if they were all truly honest they would admitt that they would choose be be thin if given a choice. I agree with all of the women that say they would never want to be skinny. I wouldn't either. I think having curves and a little meat on your bones is so much sexier. I would love have a body like Brooke Hogan or Cali on Grey's Anatomy. ( She is so not full figured like everyone says) There are a lot of women on this site that say they love being a BBw or SSBBW and wouldn't change it. I wonder how many of those women are being truly honest. I think they might be saying that because admitting that you are not happy with how you look is like admitting failure or defeat. I will admit that I hate being fat. I hate it with every once of my being. If you say that you love being a BBW or a SSBBW then you are saying you love to be ridiculed, not wearing whatever you want, physical limitations, not being healthy, descrimination, and not being seen as attractive by the majority of society. I think that anyone that says that all that doesn't bother them would have to be insane.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Alex on June 14, 2009 at 2:59am: Believe it or not, there are people out there who truly love being a bbw/ssbbw as opposed to just accepting it. And while some of those reasons may apply to some people, they don't apply to everyone. I've known bbws/ssbbws who have clothes they want to wear, don't have any physical limitations, are perfectly healthy, and have a "if you don't like me then fuck off" attitude about it.

Hell, I married one. She easily finds clothes, doesn't have physical limitations due to her weight, doesn't have any health problems due to it, and precisely has that "fuck off" attitude. So I know they're out there.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Crazytam1969 on May 24, 2009 at 11:15am: I don't like it. I use to be slim 120. Even after I had my two kids I was 143. Now I'm 230. I started getting bigger when I left my job due to a bad drinking problem. I then stayed home, drank most days all day and really put on weight. Two yrs ago, I stopped drinking (have been sober since) and put on 30 more lbs since been sober prior to that while I was drinking I had packed on weight fast. Just before I stopped drinking I knew my life was going to turn around and it did. My mind is starting to go there again with the weight. I do not want to be thin again I want to be plump but not this big. Id like to at least try to take off 50lbs because ever since I put on that extra weight so fast my body is really feeling the pain. "Lord, Help Me Take Off Some Of This Weight!"

PS I don't like fat. I think its ugly and always have. I use to tell myself I was never going to be a fat woman well karma bit me in the ass BIG time.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Crazytam1969 on May 24, 2009 at 11:21am: OH yeah there was a woman that use to come in here and on BBWXXX all the time. She was one of the well known gals. I still talk to her from time to time, she does not come here anymore. She has lost 61 lbs and looks great! She said she feels great has tons more energy and her sex drive has gone up. She said it was hard the first month but after that it was easy. So, I am thinking I know I can make myself suffer for a month to get started, I did enough suffering in the past. I know we can do it if we put our minds to it? I think what I need to do is start by not sitting in front of the computer for 2 to 3 hours a day and go walk.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by BoricuaBBW on May 24, 2009 at 2:38pm: I love my body and came to the realization that I am healthy at over 350 pounds. I am active, go to Shapes 3 times a week, work full time, take care of my mom and do not have any health issues. Yes I would love to lose the weight but if it doesn't I know i am happy and comfortable.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Jaded on May 24, 2009 at 4:13pm: Honestly, I am probably considered to be more "thick" than BBW, but I would still like to lose weight. 30 lbs would be best, simply for health reasons.; ▶ Reply to This