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Permalink Reply by Robert Lee Naramore Jr. on December 11, 2007 at 11:01am

I think it is encouraging the children to have sex at a younger age making them feel there will be no consequences.

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Permalink Reply by Fireyredhead on December 11, 2007 at 2:46pm

I'm not sure when parenting was taken out of the hands of responsible parents....and given to the government to handle.
Granted, for some children if no one stepped in they'd have no parenting at all.......but, what about parents like me?
I'm one of those parents who tries to take a particularily active role in my childrens lives.

With that being said, I'm not at all worried about this program being instututed by middle schools. I talk to my oldest son about sex if he has questions....it's not a taboo subject in my house. He knows what boobs are......and he also knows that if he ever did have a question about anything, he could come to me without consiquence and ask me...and, get an honest answer! So having this available in his school wouldn't be a "big deal" to him....because he's not led a sheltered life.
I'm not saying i'm perfect...or he's perfect......but, I'm very happy with our relationship.....and this attitude will also carry over to my middle and youngest daughter.
I'm a realist.....I know the world isn't perfect.....and, they are going to be faced with a lot of difficult decisions!! I only want them to feel comfortable to come to me and not feel like i'm going to punish them for asking me questions all young people have.
I'd rather have free thinking children.....than sheltered ones who go crazy as soon as they turn 16 because they were never exposed to being able to ask questions!!!
I am also glad that for those few kids who have no parental support and make a bad choice.....have someplace they can turn to for help!! Not everyone grows up in a rose garden!!!

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Permalink Reply by Tiffany on December 11, 2007 at 9:23pm

I agree with you Firey and Kudos on your parenting skills haha. I don't have any children but my parents are great and have always let me know if I had any questions to not be afraid to ask. I think I stated this before in a prior post that a lot of kids don' have that relationship with their parents and/or guardians. It's sad but true. I do think that middle schoolers are pretty young for this. But the truth is that there are so many kids having kids, it may be drastic but it is necessary. I do think that they should inform the parents of this plan though. They have the right to know and voice any opinions they have about it. Whether they decide to do it or not at least it will pressure some parents to have open communication with their children.

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Permalink Reply by ebonydelight on January 26, 2008 at 12:38am

I dont see the problem with it. Better safe than sorry. Do you think that not offering them b/c is going to stop them from having sex? I think not. If its something that they really want to do there is nothing you can do to stop them. Yes there are a lot of lazy parents out there, but there are also a lot of parents who take the time to raise their children to have a mind of their own, in christian homes the whole nine, but lets face it other people can sometimes have more influence over your child than you can. It would be nice if we could honestly say we know how our children are going to think or how they are going to feel, but we have no clue. We can teach them to think for themselves, we can teach them to respect their bodies and to make sure that they make other respect them and their bodies, but there is no way we can guarantee that they are going to take heed. If we think that we can control the way they think, fee, or act we are living in a fantasy land. And thats where a lot of parents go wrong they end up with a serious case of denial because they think they know their kid so well. Think of it this way,,,, How many things have we done that were totally out of order with the way our parents raised us? How many of us had parents that told us to hold out on sex until we were married, and how many of us took heed? How many of us had parents who told us to not drink or drink responsibly??? And did just the opposite. Dont you think your kids are going to want to test their limits,a lot of them are going to succumb to peer pressure because they're more worried about what their friends think than what their parents think. All we can say is that we HOPE that our children will follow the path that we direct them to, we cant say for sure thats the path they'll take.

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