Can't Women Be Friends With Other Women..

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Permalink Reply by penelope on January 11, 2008 at 9:57am

well, I for one, love men!! LOVE them, one in particular right now. It is funny that women would question
why you want to add them as friends. I have a few on my myspace also. Most of which are family members.
I usually ask why someone wants to add me regardless of whether they are male or female. I have a problem
with people just adding me when they just want to have another "notch" on there list, so to speak.

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Permalink Reply by ladyfish on January 11, 2008 at 11:15am

I am also on myspace and I have plenty of women friends. I think some people do not realise the difference between a "social" site and a "dating" site. I have gotten the same reaction when requesting to be friends with a woman. I signed up 2 yrs. ago when I relocated to another part of my state, hoping to meet people in my area, if not in the town. I have been accepted as a friend by women and men alike, but I found that when I asked someone if they would like to get together for coffee, a drink, or shopping, lunch, etc... women and men alike would assume I was offering more, and only the men would agree to meet. I think it`s great that society is more accepting of gays or any other group, but it is sad when so much of the Internet is biased to the point that any overture made is considered to be sexual or romantic in nature.

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Permalink Reply by IrishPrincessPA on January 13, 2008 at 5:33pm

I have plenty of female friends on all my profile sites............BUT did u ever notice, esp on the BBW sites most men do NOT have other male friends? Or very few.....goes to show how different men and women really are.....

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Permalink Reply by Melony on January 13, 2008 at 8:53pm

I don't feel that if women add me they are interested in me for anything other than friendship. It bothers me not at all to be friends with both genders. I rather like having girlfriends that I can ask about advice and like ladyfish said it would be nice to get together for a cup of cofee or shopping. I haven't lived near any of my online female friends or I think I would already be doing that with a few of them.

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Permalink Reply by Treasure on January 17, 2008 at 3:27am

That's really interesting. I've never looked at it like that. I know when I get friend requests from women, I generally just assume they are nothing more then friend requests. I certainly don't go on the defensive and think she wants my junk. lol. And as far as I know, women I've friended don't feel that way... Good topic though.

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Permalink Reply by Allen on January 18, 2008 at 3:01pm

I'm here at work bored, so I thought I would give a guys perspective after reading one particular response. Most men have places they can and be with other men and just talk about sports, politics or whatever we talk about. On sites like this, most men aren't here to make male friends. I already have male friends, so why would I go on a BBW site to make more male friends. We will interact on here but I'm not sending a guy an invite on this site. Now there are other websites(like blogging websites) where I have male and female friends. Thats because the site is about things other than making friends but rather expressing opinions. If I and a guy share similar political beliefs and he lives in Seattle and I in L.A. then we will be on each others pages(yahoo 360 for example). But even on here as guy with good intentions I'm not inviting some other guy to hang out on my page. Its not a homophobic thing, just not something alot of men will do.

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Permalink Reply by eroticsexuality on February 27, 2008 at 5:21pm

Sugar, I'd just love to be friends also. I have no expectations except my hang out buddy be friendly, positive, up beat and just wanna have fun. I don't like pressure. Perhaps that is why I have very few female friends (mostly males) 'cause I can control their foolishness...but women...I don't know, I think they tend to be so stuck up at times...I wish it weren't so.................

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Permalink Reply by honey106 on February 29, 2008 at 8:42pm

I love chick friends.. who else can we talk about men will?? No need to be all jealous .. Not all woman are interested in the same guy .. So its all good

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Permalink Reply by Jess on March 1, 2008 at 2:32pm

I have only female friends (pretty much, with two rare exceptions) on myspace and I haven't felt strange at all here about sending friend requests to females who I either a)admire or b)see as good friend material. :) I don't see a problem with it at all. This is a social network, like previous posters said, and not exclusively to find "dates."

Interesting topic. ;)

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Permalink Reply by RavishingRuby on March 4, 2008 at 1:10am

Reni, I am sorry to hear that she reacted that way. I think I know why she did though. It's part of internet culture that women only speak to men and vice versa. I bet you that if you ask women on this website, what gender comprises the majority of your online friends through any instant messenger (or here thru bbwchatzone), you'd hear that men make up the majority of the friends on a woman's list.

So women are suspicious of any woman who is overly friendly or overly kind, they are gay-phobic. She should have just taken your friend request as an invite to begin a friendship. And if she was paranoid that you were hitting on her by submitting a friend request she should have just been blunt and asked you about your sexual orientation. And if someone is infact a lesbian, it's okay to say, you respect them but don''t appreciate being hit on by a girl because you're heterosexual, etc. I would say something to that effect.

Being friends with other women is tricky. It's comparable to skating over ice. You never knew when you've drifted into thin ice, unknowingly. Women have lots of unsaid secret rules of how things should be. When a gf does something wrong, she gets pissed as if everyone in the world should know her secret unsaid rule. Lots of stuff runs through our minds, we don't always express them, yet those feelings manifest themselves through actions and words.

It's challenging yet rewarding to have female gfs. Gfs get to see them through highs and lows. Women are more emotional by nature. Women love to gossip about stuff. They understand any sympathize very well. My bestest gfs have been women, though I've had two male bestfriends.

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Permalink Reply by Liv For Peace☮ on March 4, 2008 at 1:36am

Well, I'm a lesbian, but when I add girls [I almost never randomly add people on myspace, but on here I do sometimes if we have stuff in common.], I'm not looking to be anything more than friends. My myspace doesn't say I'm a lesbian though, and if a girl was acting all suspicious as to why I would add her, since I'm not a guy, I doubt I'd want to even have her on my friend list anymore. That kind of says something about her.

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Permalink Reply by Tazzy on March 6, 2008 at 10:17am

You think YOU'VE got it bad?! I'm bisexual, and it says so on my myspace profile. So of course, everytime I try to add a woman as a friend, either they assume I'm trying to come on to them and they flip out (I've actually been abused for trying to make friends before!) or they assume I'm trying to come on to them and they come on strong flirting with me! (I say flirting, but at a certain point it crosses over from flirting to $5 a minute type chat!)
Most days I can just laugh it off, but some days I'm actually really offended by this!
To me, it's like assuming that no straight woman can be friends with a straight man, or vice versa.
I so feel like saying, "Look honey, as hot as you THINK you are, believe me, I have NO intentions of EVER getting close enough to you for physical contact to even be a possibility!"

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