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Why Does It Seem Like BBW Admirers Are Only Online?

Posted by Dana on February 25, 2008 at 2:32am in Love & Relationships

Ok to be honest I am 19 and I have been heavy all of my life, so I am shy. However, I have so many guys say how hot I look online and how they wish they were closer to me. Why can't I find guys off line? Are guys just really shy about approaching women in real life, but really open online? Or is it there are no BBW lovers that are my age or a little older in Orlando? I have been approached by some guys, but they are like 30. Now I know that is not old, but it is way out of my age range. I mean I dress well, great sense of humor, goofy, good cook, affectionate, but it's like I have all these good qualities and no guys see that because of my weight. I am in college, which is supposed to be the best time of my life, and I am feeling lonely. I have great friends and family, but there is that other part of my life that I feel I am missing (male counterpart). What is everyone's feelings on this?

Tags: lonely, online, orlando, shy

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Permalink Reply by missminddy on February 25, 2008 at 11:20am: yeah. i totally agree.
i've got like, 100's of guys swooning over me online.
but NONE are close enough.
and none are showing interest around me.
it sucks butt :o(; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Samantha on February 25, 2008 at 12:10pm: I know EXACTLY how you feel. I met my bf on a BBW group on myspace. We've been together for a year and a half. He lives in Michigan, so we see each other on breaks and stuff like that, but it's working.

Don't let distance prevent love!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Cynicole on February 25, 2008 at 12:36pm: I know this feeling all too well. I really think the majority (not saying all) of those that like bbw are silent in the public because they are under the judgemental public eye. I have a good friend that admits this is true. You know if fat was was NOT frowned upon, they'd be hitting on us in real life too. They won't be judged online within a community that loves other bbws too. Maybe I am just pessimistic ...but it has to be true to some degree.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by JENNY on February 25, 2008 at 4:07pm: i promise i feel like u snatched my words right out of my mouth! im young as well [18] and i have also been heavy all my life so i am extremly shy when it comes to guys im interested in(getting rejected isnt #1 on my to do list).once i really just started getting on these bbw sites as u stated i was getting hit on left and right with the majority being men 30 and over or no where near texas. though 30 isnt old as u said its out of my range. on these sites men claim "oh there r bbw lovers everywhere", but i havent meet them anywhere but online......huuhhh where r the young bbw lovers in houston,tx? =~(; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Dana on February 26, 2008 at 12:35am: thank god im not the only one lol; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by MISTRESS TAMARA on February 25, 2008 at 5:21pm: I think that some guys are shy to publicly admit that they like bigger women! With bigger women comes bigger breasts and bigger bottoms, but also bigger hearts. We are not self centered and truly care for those around us. I dont know why,there arent any guys in your area that are attracted to BBW, I was lucky and found my husband,( a thin man, well muscled) that was into big girls.Just be patient and quit looking, Your true love will find you!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by JENNY on February 25, 2008 at 6:00pm: i love your reply ad believe me i have started doing just what you have advised ive stopped looking and started waiting for my future husband to find me.but it is hard!!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by BrownEyedChica on February 25, 2008 at 10:12pm: I totally understand where you are coming from. I'm going through the same as well. But I think that most of the younger men tend to be I guess "closeted" bbw admirers..... thats my take on it.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Keri on February 25, 2008 at 11:41pm: I feel your pain, sister.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Treasure on February 26, 2008 at 3:40pm: I feel the same way. Interesting how no guys have replied...

Maybe a greater number of the men on here are closet admirers. They only admire from the comfort of their computer chair.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Bigred on March 14, 2008 at 10:28pm: Hmmm well the thing that I have to say is that some large women are not really attracted to most "real" men who like BBWs but then like most of you have said most men have BBW "fantasies" so they can "act" their fantasies out on the internet and not in real person.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Allen on February 26, 2008 at 5:43pm: Yes. The internet makes it easier for people to approach one another because there is no real interaction(like body language, vocal inflections, things like that). It also allows a guy in this case to make more advances because there are more people are available to talk. It's like turning a state the size of Colorado into one night club, instead of going to an actual bar were most of the women there may not find you appealing. More options means more chances for a yes. There are other guys who are in the closet about it too. They claim to like BBW's but don't want to be seen in public with them. I can't speak for Florida, but here in California we have numerous BBW clubs, and there are ALOT of men in them(me being one them). You can't really hide when you walk into a hotel that has a BBW nightclub. I would look online in your area for meet and greets (just watch out for the ones that are swingers, unless you are into that). There the men will have real intentions. I sure if you google it, you'll find teen BBW admire groups somewhere, that could also help you find late teens and early 20's admirers.; ▶ Reply to This