Why Does It Seem Like BBW Admirers Are Only Online?

The BBW & Admirers Social Network

Why Does It Seem Like BBW Admirers Are Only Online?

Posted by Dana on February 25, 2008 at 2:32am in Love & Relationships

Ok to be honest I am 19 and I have been heavy all of my life, so I am shy. However, I have so many guys say how hot I look online and how they wish they were closer to me. Why can't I find guys off line? Are guys just really shy about approaching women in real life, but really open online? Or is it there are no BBW lovers that are my age or a little older in Orlando? I have been approached by some guys, but they are like 30. Now I know that is not old, but it is way out of my age range. I mean I dress well, great sense of humor, goofy, good cook, affectionate, but it's like I have all these good qualities and no guys see that because of my weight. I am in college, which is supposed to be the best time of my life, and I am feeling lonely. I have great friends and family, but there is that other part of my life that I feel I am missing (male counterpart). What is everyone's feelings on this?

Tags: lonely, online, orlando, shy

▶ Reply to This

Replies to This Discussion

Permalink Reply by Jasmine on March 7, 2008 at 2:30pm: I totally agree... This is so true... All of that Im in college too... A big university and I've been there 3 years and I can't think of a time Ive been approched on campus... and all that guys that have approched me have been older and a few guys who are my age that are my age that have tried to "holler" at me a like a gas station who aren't in school and not trying to do anything with thier lives that Im really not interested in. It really sux.. But to be honest being on here does make me feel a little better like there is hope... Lol; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by lala80 on March 7, 2008 at 8:24pm: Preach on girl...it seems as though we are all in agreement..lots of interest online ...not much in real life.......something doesn't add up...; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Caitlin on March 7, 2008 at 10:40pm: ahhh i feet your pain!!! mee too!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Charlie on March 8, 2008 at 2:21am: maybe you can't find any guys in real life because you spend too much time chatting with hot guys from Canada or what not on pages like this but if a real local guy wants to make your acquaintance here online you chicken out and keep chatting with the guy in Canada instead who is probably married with five children a beer gut and all that good stuff in real life; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Dana on March 17, 2008 at 6:36pm: Well first of all that is not true. I have spend this past spring break showing true interest in a guy from my town, only to find he doesn't like me like that, and likes some else. Yeah I do chat with guys that are out of state, but a guy has not approached me locally that wants to make my acquaintance. I spend only a little time chatting, and if I do, I look for in-state guys.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by WeirdnWonderful on March 30, 2008 at 3:50pm: bwuahahaaaaahaaaa; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by ItsABigWorld on March 12, 2008 at 6:05am: there is so much pressure for youth to compete and exceed the norm that we find guys not being able to persue their size preference.
We also see women pressured to be with men their own age or younger.
Only rarely do the two intersect.

This saying is vaguely fitting here.
You can be an older mans princess or a young mans slave.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by DannyDuhzet on March 14, 2008 at 3:57pm: Im A Chubby Chaser Through And Through..As A Matter Of Fact I Make It Known By Signing My "Art" Work "The Chubby Chaser!".. So There Are Admirers out There..And Im 23...In My Case Im Just Toooooooo Shy To Say Anything To A Girl In Person...But internally I Lose My Fuckin Mind Thinkin How Gorgeous Some Of You Are As They Pass Me By!!! And Im Always Hoping They Would Talk To Me...Which Dont Happen.. Which Is Why I Use The Internet..Location Is A Bitch But Hey Work With What Ya Got.. So Lets Flip The Script..Since We Are All On The Same Page As Far As being "Diffrent"(For Society Standards) Why Dont You Girls Begin To Aproach The Guys? There Still Are Good Guys Out There.. They Just Might Be Quiet And Shy Like Me..; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Lubomira on March 30, 2008 at 5:31pm: I would approach a guy, would love to, but I've been put down way too often that now I just assume that no one is into me. It's easier to pick me out in a crowed, but its impossible to pick you all out..; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Dana on March 17, 2008 at 6:38pm: well maybe ill find a guy when I'm 30 that will treat me like a princess.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by j.r on March 14, 2008 at 5:03pm: hello how are you today; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Sarah on March 14, 2008 at 8:57pm: Sweetie....let me start off by saying it definitely isnt you! And you definitely are not alone..as you can see by all the replies.
The sad truth of the matter is that a lot of men are either too embarassed by what their friends say or think to approach a BBW in the streets. I mean lets get real, women dont care what their friends say about certain guys we may have an interest in ...as long as WE care about them...then who cares what our friends think, right?
Well with guys, they know their friends aren't mature enough to handle difference so they are "closet" admirers....who will talk to us on the phone, on-line...and if we hook up,...its in private somewhere far away from anyone they know.
NOT ALL GUYS ARE LIKE THIS....let me clarify that before I get bombarded with emails from guys on this site. Obviously I am not talking about you men on this site.
Truth be told, I am almost 28 yrs old and I sitll have the same issue as you. So the older you get, it doesnt get better. But you do develop a patience and tolerance for it. You spend your time keeping busy with work and school and keep your mind on something else. But don't fret, Prince Charming will come along one day sweetie! And if he has to, he'll travel to be with you! Why? Because you are worth it! Don't forget that!
Another thing, also, I dont know where u r from, but now a days there are BBW dances everywhere. I've been to a couple. It is a great way to meet new people, cute men, and great confident women who are definitely learning examples!
Don't forget, Be Yourself hun! Thats the only thing you know how to be and you do it so well!
-Sarah; ▶ Reply to This