The Elusive BBW Admirer: Do You Exist in The Real World

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The Elusive BBW Admirer: Do You Exist in The Real World

Posted by Lubomira on March 18, 2008 at 4:50pm in Love & Relationships

I was just wondering, where are all you guys in the real world? I live near one of the busiest and people compact cities in the world, and I circulate the metro area with friends, and I have yet to meet a real, living, breathing bbw admirer. Are you out there, or is it just some made up fairy tale? It’s easy enough to find you online, but where are you out there?!?! I’m shy so I know I have a hard time meeting guys, and I know I’m not gorgeous, but I don’t think I’m a mutant, I’m decent looking… so where do I go to find you?

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Permalink Reply by indoor_bbw_lover on March 23, 2008 at 8:58pm: Afraid to go against society's norm. Like B said its sad.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by B. on March 24, 2008 at 3:36pm: I agree with you!!! I wish when I told a bbw how gorgeous I think she is - that she would accept it. We're lovely ladies - flaunt it!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Lubomira on March 24, 2008 at 3:49pm: And I do wish I could believe it, but the negatives far outweigh the possitives... sometimes you just starting thinking that you're the one at fault and social norms are right... Don't get me wrong, I have my good days too, just wish there were more of them than not... It wouldn't hurt to have some of the closet cases get over themselves too... lol... it must be sufforcating in those. Come out once in a while!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by B. on March 24, 2008 at 7:39pm: It makes me really sad that you weren't told you were beautiful when in fact you are. I've been lucky to have never heard those things from anyone that mattered to me. I wish you could have been as well.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Lubomira on March 25, 2008 at 7:17pm: You know,
I've had such bad luck with men... you wouldn't believe it. In all honestly, I did/do blame it on my weight, but recently I've come across a few men that let me in on some insight. Its not about the way you look, but the way you come across. Strange as it may sound, it seems to do alot with confidence. Now, I don't think I'm anything special and on top of that I am a BBW, something that I think puts me at a disadvantage. Well, the guys I've talked to have said some really nice things and they appreciate my looks, something that seems so strange to me. As it turns out, my lack of confidence is what turns them off. Grant it, they understand that I didn't just wake up one day and say "Hey wouldn't it be fun to have low self-esteem today?!" I definitely had help with that, but the point is, if I don't believe in myself, noone will. I've watched both fat and thin women walk down the street, and when you see a woman hold her head high and walk with a strong confident stride, you can't help but look her way, no matter what her size is. I put the theory to test, not really meaning to, but at the end of the night I noticed a difference. I was out with friends and I wasn't really caring what people thought about me, yet i felt really good. Sure enough, I guess that came though because I got hit on 3 times that night, something that has never happend to me before... so I guess there is truth in it. Does that make sense? Do other people feel the same way?; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Ruby on June 26, 2008 at 12:40am: I agree......but it is easier said than done. Is there a class that teaches that? lol
I do know I am special and that I am a beautiful person on the inside. And the inside of a mans soul is where I am looking for his handsomeness.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Chuck on March 21, 2008 at 2:22am: We exist. we're hard to find, since we're so dispersed in the "real" world, and many are shy like gay men who just came out the closet.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Jess on March 24, 2008 at 1:35pm: Really?; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by deltablue on March 21, 2008 at 8:07am: yes, we are out here , and we are just as shy as you - don't give up!!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Curtis on March 21, 2008 at 12:16pm: I love bbw, if there are any in my area I'd love to meet them. and Lubmnia you are wrong you are very gorgeous and any man that thinks otherwise sound not be a part of your life.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by brown bear on March 22, 2008 at 10:09am: let me start with i dont hesitate to flirt with a bbw or ssbbw. i work with customer service and see beautiful women all the time. but one thing i see is that alot of bbw's want a GQ looking guy. my guess is he's not lookin to have anyone tarnish his image. me i'm a big guy and prefer the company of thicker women. If i go dancin i'm not lookin for the girl every man wants. I want the one "I " want. as for men online admireing, alot of them see bbw's as desperate for love. to them i say "**** you" because they dont know what kind of woman you trully are. To keep it simple a woman is a woman and should be loved for just that.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Dawn on March 29, 2008 at 12:00am: "To keep it simple a woman is a woman and should be loved for just that."

You just became my hero when you said that...I am so glad that there are still some men who see that! =]; ▶ Reply to This