How do guys really feel about being seen w/ a bigger girl ?

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Permalink Reply by LuvlyDoll on May 6, 2008 at 1:13pm

It's all about self confidence, I strongly believe.. People sense insecurity like sharks sense blood and dogs sense fear. If you are a confident beautiful woman, no one's gonna be ashamed of you.
When I was younger, I was insecure and often felt miserable when in presence of a skinny girl, especially if boys were around.. But once I accepted my body and started loving it, I have many skinny girl friends I go out with and not even once I feel bad. I dance like they do, I walk like they do, I laugh like they do.. no keeping my head low and trying to avoid eye contacts.. If you don't feel bad about yourself, no one will.
My ex was so happy with me, he wanted to take me everywhere with him and wanted me to meet his mom and sister on our first date (eeekk :D ). The one who is worth of you is gonna make you feel special, that's for sure. Who cares about the others..

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Permalink Reply by ouichanel on May 7, 2008 at 12:44pm

I agree with LuvlyDoll. I have so much fun with life not worrying about being different than everyone else... when I am out with my friends (ALL are skinny and beautiful), I do not think of myself as less attractive .. keep your head up, be yourself..be free.. the right person will realize this, there's no reason to debate on whether or not someone would be embarrassed to be seen with you.. if you ever feel that way with someone turn around and leave..you're better than that.

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Permalink Reply by MuchBetta on May 7, 2008 at 12:53pm

I enjoy it, i dont have a problem with it at all. Im proud of my bbws and how they carry themselves. Ill take a bbw over a skinny chick anyday. Sexually, bbws are better..

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Permalink Reply by Zeke Norton on May 7, 2008 at 9:52pm

I think the biggest chick I ever dated was a 50/52 and she loved to dance. We went out almost every weekend to clubs, restaurant after, and if there was an afterparty. I've dated a size 2 as well. I treat all women the same. RESPECTFULLY. Hey I aint the prettiest guy in the world. I should be honored you wanna be seen in public with me. Besides I love to hold hands. I love eatting at a restaurant and sitting with my arm around you and feeding each other. Cause I'm sappy that way. But there are those who do have problems with PDA with a big girl and to them I say, to hell with you.

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Permalink Reply by Raretalent on June 2, 2008 at 5:11pm

Five stars for you Zeke. That's how a king suppose to treat his queen!

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Permalink Reply by SpicyBBW on May 12, 2008 at 7:50pm

It's so crazy, but my family can't believe that a guy who's a body builder would want me because I'm a size 20. He loves me to death and my kids and he respects me and makes me feel loved and wanted. My family on the other had has told me I should lose weight and try to get in shape so I wouldn't have to worry about him leaving me for someone smaller. That hurted me more than anything because I felt like if he liked me at the size I was when we met, why should I change now. They make an issue of it more than society. I asked him when we met, if he was sure he wanted me and he looked at me like I was crazy. I am so thankful that I met him, even though my family disapproves of the relationship, we are still doing great. He makes me feel like I'm the sexiest woman alive and I love that feeling because I used to have self esteem issues, but I am on top of the world with a big head now (LOL).

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Permalink Reply by LuvlyDoll on May 13, 2008 at 1:36pm

That's wonderful :)
I know myself that the family might be even more judgemental than the rest of the world when it should be differently supposing they know us better.. I bet your family wants you the best, they just assume wrong things.. You go your own way, what do you care :) and prove them they're wrong. Actually, you don't have to prove anything to anyone, just stay true to yourself no matter what happens!

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Permalink Reply by Raretalent on June 2, 2008 at 5:16pm

Halle Berry had the same issues that any BBW has had and look at her. If someone decides to walk out your life, allow them because when one door closes another door opens! There's no such thing as a brokenheart, the heart is a muscle. Hold it together people. God's love and self love increases outward love.

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Permalink Reply by Infy on May 16, 2008 at 6:47am

I've found it's more about the personality of the woman than it is about her size. Intelligence, compassion, honesty, open-mindedness, a sense of humor, being affectionate, the ability to laugh at herself when things go awry, and a healthy dose of confidence are all quite sexy. Weight can and will fluctuate, but it takes a hell of a lot more for someone's personality to change.

Why should it even be an issue if my date or girlfriend is overweight? Neither me, my mom, or any of my sisters are thin, so I'd think it'd be pretty hypocritical to judge based on something as flimsy as that. They're more interested in whether the woman I'm with treats me well, is respectful, and that we share some mutual interests and chemistry, rather than get hung up on something as inane as not fitting into a size zero pair of jeans. Besides, they all married larger guys, so apparently it's not just me that thinks that way.

Besides, dammit, I like more curves to my women, and would rather not date a stick. Skinny women have their own issues with insecurity too, so it's not just one of those aspects that's limited to those of us who are a little bigger. In my own humble experience, the BBWs that I have known in my life are generally more grounded, mature, open-minded, and engaging.

I've been through the teasing and nastiness of being the fat kid, I definitely do not wish to perpetuate that upon anyone else. It is not up to me to judge someone based on this or any other 'unfavorable' trait. While I'm a bit less overweight now than I used to be, that's primarily due to dealing with adult-onset diabetes and trying to lead a healthier lifestyle. Even after all the weight-loss, I still have my gut and look a bit heavier than I feel, but when it all comes down to it, I'm still me.

I had married a "plus-sized" woman, and I thought she was sexy - even when she, herself, thought completely otherwise. No matter how often I let her know, it was never good enough, and that's a shame -- but it's also not something I could change about her, no matter how supportive I had been. She had to find it out about herself and be comfortable with the woman she was. It sometimes saddens me that this is something that afflicts other women too, but as I've learned in life and as I'm working towards becoming a psychotherapist, it's a very common issue regardless of size.

Beauty is a state of mind, and each person defines that differently. I think beauty can be found just about anywhere - I'm personally attracted to beautiful eyes and a smile that brightens the room. I enjoy curves that I can slowly caress and explore, a healthy amount of cleavage, and a quite spankable backside that I can mold my hand to... upon a woman who is creative, flirtatious, playful, and possesses a wicked sense of humor to go along with her devilish mind. Can this be found on a smaller woman? Perhaps. But if my preferences can be taken into consideration, I've already chosen where I want to be.

Where is that? Well, I'm right here, aren't I?

With warm regards,
Kevin

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Permalink Reply by marlin on May 16, 2008 at 1:24pm

embarressed........ha!!!what is there 2 be embarressed about being seen with a large women?
bbws and ssbbw's are way more atractive in looks and personality then a thin women.
now i dont know about other guys, but i would rather be with a big girl with a few extra curves on her than a pencil in a dress ok. you couldn't pay me 2 be seen side by side with a skinny girl and that's telling the truth.

peace!!!!

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Permalink Reply by toni708 on May 20, 2008 at 6:46pm

This is an excellent blog! I have finally met a man who loves me for me....it has taken me back abit I must admit! I am beautiful, sexy, a hard worker, good mother...he tells me all the time how beautiful I am! you go...you hit it right on the button!!

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Permalink Reply by Mari82inOR on June 2, 2008 at 4:28am

I've been taken home to meet the dude's parents... no problem. what do they care if someone's fat or not... everyone is different. just because someone's fat shouldn't matter. just like if someone would be embarrassed to take a person of a different race home... a ridiculous matter, really.

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