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Feeders????

I am sorry... I can't keep my mouth shut about this. I was perusing the home page here and noticed among the different groups was a group for feeders and people wanted to be fed till they gain as much weight as they can. I had to read this page. I was horrified when I read the part that said that the medical community is misleading people into thinking that being that obese is bad for a person physically. Now I believe in freedom of speech and I believe a person should be free to do what makes them happy, But I think that this is only true if one is not doing anything to hurt themselves or someone else. This is just my opinion but it seems to me that there might be some kind of mental illness involved in this kind of behavior. With both the individuals doing the feeding as well as the individuals doing the eating, and if these people have some kind of mental issues then what they are doing is not right. You are fooling yourselves if you actually believe that a morbidly obese person can be healthy. Before anyone gets on my case I AM considered extremely maybe even morbidly obese. Due to the fact that I am 5' 6" and close to 300 lbs. I know from personal experience that I feel a lot better when I lose weight. I breath better. I sleep better and I move better. I have less pain and more energy. My health in general is pretty good but I know if I stay at this weight it will take its toll when I am older. I am not saying this because some doctor told me. I am speaking from experience. I come from a family of morbidly obese people and I have watched their health become progressively worse as they age. I feel sadness for these so called feeders and their feedees. I know I know I just opened up a can of worms.... remember this is just my opinion...

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Permalink Reply by Kathleen on May 8, 2008 at 12:39am: Kindred Spirits? You have got to be kidding me!! I believe you should be comfortable with your size, but to Want to be that fat where you cannot even wipe your own butt is just absurd. How can anyone want to lay in there own urine and feces unless You or whoever is the Feeder is there to change them and bath them. I know that there is a big underground following of this FETISH, but I have seen some craziness before, but this has got to take the cake. It is like a woman beater who has control of his partner, and with a 700+ woman laying in bed, she has no choice but to submit complete control, and it must give you a big rush to have control over another human being. I think it is nothing but abuse and the Feede has got alot of issues to let someone feed them until they explode or die first. Can you imagine the pain in the joints of a 600+ pound person, and saying that the medical community is misleading is pure rubbish. What if that feede needs to have swift medical attention, you couldnt even get her out of the house, let alone and ambulance, and God forbid there is a surgery needed, it just couldnt be done safely, so how is that healthy?

Permalink Reply by tammy on May 8, 2008 at 9:48am: Ok I lied about being done with this discussion...lol... I was thinking about it last night while I was online, so I decided to do some research. I found out some interesting things. The first of which is that NAAFA ( national association for the advancement of fat acceptance) officially opposes the practice of feederism. http://www.naafa.org/documents/policies/feederism.html
Although I don't agree with everything that NAAFA stands for, I find it very interesting that they have this opinion on this subject. I think most people on this site are for size acceptance. Another thing I found that was interesting is that "feederism" is considered a psychological disorder. Its grouped under fetishism and paraphilias. I also entered a chat room to talk to feeders and feedees and what I found is that many of these people avoided talking about the health risks. Most of them just kept on stressing the point that there is nothing wrong with their attraction for the super obese... There is nothing wrong with being attracted to obese people. Its no different then being attracted to blonds, or tall people. The issue that most people have with feederism is the feeding and deliberately gaining weight. Being attracted to someone that is morbidly obese is one thing.... Making them that way to sexually gratify yourself is another. Now I am officially and permanently done with this subject... I promise :)

Permalink Reply by Stacey Dee on May 20, 2008 at 1:21pm: Feed is so inaccurate, I would have to agree with you!

Permalink Reply by Stacey Dee on May 20, 2008 at 1:18pm: Too many people have taken the movie and assume that all feeders are like this. But that is a huge misconception! It's just another way the media influences us and drills in our minds that this is the only way. I would have to disagree. The movie feeders, is a hateful way and it should not be lived out in anyway, but I believe there is other ways of living this life, and enjoy it!

Permalink Reply by Kathleen on May 8, 2008 at 10:12am: It still boils down to control. The feeder is a control maniac. The feede has some deep rooted mental issues. You can spew all you want that it is about size acceptance, blah, blah, blah. Anyone who would want to be physically unable to care for there basic personal hygiene, not be able to walk, have to be lifted be a hoyer lift, is mentally ill. The person that thinks that by trying to talk so eloquently about what a wonderful caretaker he is, and has devoted his life to taking care of the health and hygiene habits of a super morbidly obese person is nothing more than a predator and an abuser. There is not a thing wrong with being attracted to a ssbbw, a thin woman, etc, but to want to inflict pain and depression and mostly possible death to anyone, so you can explore your fetish of watching that person be totally dependent on you, and so on, is so wrong on so many levels. If you want to be dependent on someone, find a man that will be your sugardaddie, take care of you, etc, not some freak who wants to feed you to death so he can wank his crank!!

Permalink Reply by Gaining_Gabi on May 20, 2008 at 6:37am: WOW!!!! You are judging a person and saying that they must be something wrong with a person because they are a feedee and there is a control with if a person is a feeder. I would have to disagree with you that all feedees and gainers have some "Mental Issues" as to why they would want to do this! I understand that you do not understand why a person would want to do this or why they would choose that life, but in all honestly, you shouldnt say that a person is mentally ill. I believe that is just a dull excuse for not being willing to open your mind and say hey, its not my cup of tea, but if it is his/hers then be it. But I know from experience that being a feedee usually means the person is not mentally ill. I have acutally had the pleasure to feed another person and let me tell you, you have no idea what its like. You think that its a control issue. WHAT ONE SEC!!! BACK UP!!!!

Ok, from my experience. I have never forced the person that I got the opportunity to feed and encourage, to get so full that she threw up or was sick. There is a huge trust and communciation when it comes to this. I myself, would consider myself a foodee. Someone who enjoys food.

But the person I have gotten the opportunity to feed more then once, was a smart and driven and passionate women. She is stable and has her shit together. She started gaining 6 years ago, because she wanted to. She loved getting larger, and softer and having curves. When she started she was at 175lbs, now she is a little over 250. I know that you are probably thinking that I am crazy. But I know for a fact that it is not a control thing or that the feedee has mental issues.

When both people in a relationship want it, and its an equal thing, then I would say that it is ok. I mean if it is agasint someones will I would have an issue with that. But if two people want that, what is holding them back?

Hate and misunderstanding of society?

The women I got the opportunity to feed, doesnt want to become immobile, she just wants to become right around and SSBBW 350+ lbs. I know that this doesnt make sense to you and I know that your probably scratching her head right now saying WTF!!!

But when I have gotten the opportunity to feed her, it was like something, that was fun. She wanted to be fed. She had the desire and the craving for it. But not in an unhealthy way, like having a dinner fed to her.

It is also exciting to the feeder or encourager if the person enjoys that, because it can be a very satisying experience for both parties but in a non-sexual way. This type of relationship or way of life, if it is done right, the couple can have a very very deep relationship with amazing communciation!

Trust me, I would never force a person to eat something they didnt want to, or stuff them until they were sick. If a person says stop, stop means stop. Now I do want to say that I enjoy feeding her, but many of the times we did it, it was fun and exciting. Not agasint anyone wills.

I am not sure if I made any sense. Really tired at the moment. LOL

Though I have experienced both sides of the lifestyle, being a feeder and a feedee. I would have to say that I enjoy so much more being a feedee/foodee, but I have enjoyed the feeder part too, because the friend I was feeding, was enjoying it and having fun and wanted it!!!!

Permalink Reply by Scarlett on May 20, 2008 at 8:14am: Gabi,
You and Stephen are contradicting each other. You say it is not a sexual thing, while he's staying feeding is an intimate mind blowing sexual experience. Does this not tell you anything?

Permalink Reply by Gaining_Gabi on May 20, 2008 at 11:23am: Scarlett,

It is different to all people. Every single person has there thoughts on it and what they seek. Yes it can be a mind blowing experience sexually, but I am saying from personal experience that its not the sexual ascept is not a key point for me, or that its the only thing or reason I do it. Does that make sense?

Permalink Reply by Stacey Dee on May 20, 2008 at 1:29pm: I would have to disagree with you! I dont believe most feeders are control maniac!!!! I also know for a fact, that as myself, who is a feedee, who is coming out of the closet. I am not mentally disabled or anything like that. I am actually a very driven person. I am stable and perfectly fine in my heart, mind and soul!

Permalink Reply by ouichanel on May 8, 2008 at 2:33pm: Ok..I'm disgusted. There seems to be a an actual, true feeder here on bbwchatzone but for the most part I thought the feeder/feedee thing was just a fantasy role play type of thing..as weird as it is. I've seen clips of feitsh videos on girls stuffing themselves..there's a girl on the chatzone with a link to her website w/ videos..It's like watching a car crash.. I can not believe there is a business in glorifying eating disorders as they do.

..and from what I gather..there's little to no actual sex in this situation. What's the point?

However, to each his own. I don't want to stereotype a possible "feeder" girl but I would think it would be a woman who is so sad, lonely and desperate and being completely taken advantage of..even unbeknownst by the "feeder" who is obviously delusional.

Permalink Reply by Gaining_Gabi on May 20, 2008 at 6:39am: You maybe disguted, but I really think that you may not understand it and that it truly scares the hell out of you!