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Posted by tammy on May 3, 2008 at 10:34pm in Plus Size Lifestyle

I am sorry... I can't keep my mouth shut about this. I was perusing the home page here and noticed among the different groups was a group for feeders and people wanted to be fed till they gain as much weight as they can. I had to read this page. I was horrified when I read the part that said that the medical community is misleading people into thinking that being that obese is bad for a person physically. Now I believe in freedom of speech and I believe a person should be free to do what makes them happy, But I think that this is only true if one is not doing anything to hurt themselves or someone else. This is just my opinion but it seems to me that there might be some kind of mental illness involved in this kind of behavior. With both the individuals doing the feeding as well as the individuals doing the eating, and if these people have some kind of mental issues then what they are doing is not right. You are fooling yourselves if you actually believe that a morbidly obese person can be healthy. Before anyone gets on my case I AM considered extremely maybe even morbidly obese. Due to the fact that I am 5' 6" and close to 300 lbs. I know from personal experience that I feel a lot better when I lose weight. I breath better. I sleep better and I move better. I have less pain and more energy. My health in general is pretty good but I know if I stay at this weight it will take its toll when I am older. I am not saying this because some doctor told me. I am speaking from experience. I come from a family of morbidly obese people and I have watched their health become progressively worse as they age. I feel sadness for these so called feeders and their feedees. I know I know I just opened up a can of worms.... remember this is just my opinion...

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Permalink Reply by Stacey Dee on May 20, 2008 at 1:29pm: Now there is two and I am proud to be a feedee!

Permalink Reply by Kathleen on May 8, 2008 at 8:16pm: If you do not want comments then you should have not posted your own. Feeding your lover chocolates is one thing, making them gorge themselves to fufill some sick fantasy of you being in total control is another. Anti-food, Anti-Fat, give me a break, your trying to make some sick fetish seem ok by talking about it. Noone who is remotely sane is going to want to get so large that they have to be lifted in a hoyer lift, and have to have some tool wipe their behind. I have taken care of residents like that, and the one thing I heard over and over is why did I let it get so far! So see your opinion is just that your own. My best gf online died last year due to her 600+ lb body. I will never forget that, but I guess that is just the medical community spewing more propaganda right? The underground fetish community also feels this is not right. Sex and its components are suposed to be safe, fun, loving. How is basically watching someone kill themselves safe? They cannot just wake up one day and say Well, I dont think I want to anymore, and walk away. Maybe being hoisted away in shame, in the hopes they can lose some of the weight before they succumb to themselves. You cannot have gastric bypass at that large amount of weight. But im assuming that is just more anti fat propaganda?

Permalink Reply by Kathleen on May 8, 2008 at 8:23pm: How in the HELL does the obese woman has control?? Control of what?? Which way she has to be lifted so you can wipe her? Control?? Relationship? I have heard some total insanity in my life, but this, this is by far the most incredible one. Passionate?? You cant even move, your the one on top, she cant do much more than move her arms and maybe some leg movement, passionate for who? Im going to lose my mind discussing this..This is some Jerry Springer shite..

Permalink Reply by Stacey Dee on May 20, 2008 at 1:32pm: I am not fat now, but I plan to get really fat and I have complete control over how I gain. I make the choices in my life, to make it happen. It is possible to have a relationship and to have control over ones life!

Permalink Reply by tammy on May 20, 2008 at 1:58pm: Stacey dee... I am not judging you for your choice in wanting to gain weight and be a feedee. Since you are thin maybe you don't know what its like to be obese. I would like to share some of my experiences with you. Hopefully I can shed a little light onto whats its like... I weigh around 300 lbs. Although I feel I am attractive and I am happy there are a lot of things that bother me about being obese. Here are just a few: I can't always fit in booths at restaurants so I am sometimes limited to where I can go eat. Its a pain to have to decide where to eat based on the seating arrangements rather then how good the food is. Clothing is very hard to find and you have to work hard to be fashionable. I can't fit in some concert venue chairs comfortably. Airplane seats are a tight squeeze. Then there are the health issues. When you are obese you have rolls. No matter how clean you are you still perspire between the rolls. You get horrible chaffing sometimes if you are really active. It feels like a burn. This is graphic but its true and its something to think about... Even that time of the month is hard for me. I can't really reach good enough to use a tampon so I use pads. The problem with that is pads don't quite fit right when your stomach gets in the way and your thighs rub together, and your period can be very messy. I am a hair dresser and tattoo artist and I stand for long periods of time. My back kills me, my knees and feet hurt more then my thin counterparts. As most obese people do I have edema. Its painful and dangerous..... Don't even get me going about how much better my sex life was when I was thinner. I mean don't get me wrong I have a great sex life with a wonderful man but there are physical limitations due to my weight. Something as simple as kissing him when he is on top is difficult. The only way around these difficulties is losing weight or giving in and not living life by continuing to gain and become immobile and rely on a care giver... to me thats not living. I know I could stay at this weight and live happily for a while but I am not going to fool myself and think that as I get older the weight wont take its toll and make me even unhealthier.

Permalink Reply by BBW_Princess on May 8, 2008 at 9:42pm: I am so not a fan of this feeding thing. I have been approached by men who are into this and to me it's sick. to feed someone til they are so fat they can't do ANYTHING for themselves? I am sorry i also don't find anything erotic about stuffing my face or having someone feed me til i can't even move.
Yes i also feel sadness for feeders/feedees I mean to me that whole thing is a form of slavery. It is something i will never and DO NOT want to understand. yes i am a fat chick but someone should love me as i am not trying to fatten me up for THEIR sick ideal of what they want. I wrote a bit of a blog on this subject on my page here.

Permalink Reply by LuvlyDoll on May 12, 2008 at 11:54pm: Why are you getting offended Stephen? I've read the topic and I don't see anyone judging sexual preferences of any kind, but the health risk!!! You know, health.. And you keep talking about the love and mutual joy of a feeder and a feedee..
Homo sapiens was earlier in the evolution homo erectus, so how can you say it's ok for a feedee not to be able to stand up straight as it should be...? That's the way we humans are created, to stand on our two feet.. If a 700 lbs person could walk AND with no ache for that matter, then I guess it would be completely ok, no matter how that person looks or what she likes.. Just don't tell me that ANYONE on the planet feels good being disabled and to depend on someone..

Permalink Reply by LuvlyDoll on May 13, 2008 at 1:21pm: Why are you acting like you know me when you don't? Too bad that you don't see that I am trying to understand, I just don't 'cause there are no real pro arguments, only contra.. And why are you talking about the WLS, I'm not into that nor am I saying that anyone should lose weight. I'm talking about gaining weight on purpose to the point where a feedee couldn't gain no more weight... Ok, if there are women who enjoy this, that would actually be the only thing that makes sense to me..
You've mentioned that getting fat doesn't comprimise one's health for ten times already. I'm talking about simply standing up and walking?!? And I don't really care about the researches, I'm not buying that crap anyway..

"I have no desire to keep a discussion going with those who can only judge- and of all people- so-called BBWS!"
Oh yeah, I bet the rest of a society is ok with that, it's only us fat people who are judgmental.. yeah..

As for Dawn and Gabi, I'd like to hear their point of view, of course.

Permalink Reply by tammy on May 13, 2008 at 1:28pm: You keep on ignoring any comment made that has any merit. There are many health issues that disappear when a person loses weight. Diabetics are able to stop taking insulin. Cholesterol is lowered. Back pain disappears, joint pain disappears. Don't tell me its "the medical community" that is brain washing us. I know all this first hand, and so do all the other BBWs on this site. We are BBWs. We all know what its like to be fat. I have read postings on here in the feeders group and on other feederism websites. I have also read about feederism on websites about psychological disorders. Feederism is not singled out on these sites because it involves obesity. It is listed under fetishism along with all the other fetishes. I educate myself before I go and comment about what I am not sure of. We are not attacking the love or attraction you feel for your feedees. We all have a problem with the obvious health risks and the problem of immobility that is involved with this fetish. These health risks are obvious to us because we live them... NOT because some doctor told us about them. You also ignore the other comments I made : Is it ok for a man that like very thin woman to encourage a woman with anorexia to starve? Is it ok for that man to encourage a woman with bulimia to binge and purge? Is it ok for us to pour a drink for an alcoholic ? Before you make a comment to the contrary it is all the same. Food addiction is real. Address these comments and I will be satisfied. I have a feeling that you have ignored all this because you know its true. All you care about is your fetish and satisfying yourself.

Permalink Reply by tammy on May 13, 2008 at 9:32pm: You are still being evasive.... I will all take your reluctance to address my comments to mean that you have no way of dismissing them because they are right. I never once called you perverted. I was never once hateful. Maybe you take my comments as ugly and hateful because deep down you feel that your behavior is ugly and not right... Don't project your deep down feelings onto me... I was never disrespectful to you.

Permalink Reply by Gaining_Gabi on May 20, 2008 at 6:19am: Ok. I think every person on this page, needs to take a deep breath! Can everyone breathe in and breathe out, breathe in and breathe out!

I know that many do not understand this way of life. There will always be boundaries and limits set. We are all different and we all think differently. I know that many of us do not understand the feeder/feedee relationship but where is it our place to be the judge of that?