Feeders????

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Posted by tammy on May 3, 2008 at 10:34pm in Plus Size Lifestyle

I am sorry... I can't keep my mouth shut about this. I was perusing the home page here and noticed among the different groups was a group for feeders and people wanted to be fed till they gain as much weight as they can. I had to read this page. I was horrified when I read the part that said that the medical community is misleading people into thinking that being that obese is bad for a person physically. Now I believe in freedom of speech and I believe a person should be free to do what makes them happy, But I think that this is only true if one is not doing anything to hurt themselves or someone else. This is just my opinion but it seems to me that there might be some kind of mental illness involved in this kind of behavior. With both the individuals doing the feeding as well as the individuals doing the eating, and if these people have some kind of mental issues then what they are doing is not right. You are fooling yourselves if you actually believe that a morbidly obese person can be healthy. Before anyone gets on my case I AM considered extremely maybe even morbidly obese. Due to the fact that I am 5' 6" and close to 300 lbs. I know from personal experience that I feel a lot better when I lose weight. I breath better. I sleep better and I move better. I have less pain and more energy. My health in general is pretty good but I know if I stay at this weight it will take its toll when I am older. I am not saying this because some doctor told me. I am speaking from experience. I come from a family of morbidly obese people and I have watched their health become progressively worse as they age. I feel sadness for these so called feeders and their feedees. I know I know I just opened up a can of worms.... remember this is just my opinion...

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Permalink Reply by tara_1973 on May 13, 2008 at 1:24pm: i have been approached by feeders and my answer is always NO...i find it terrible that some ppl get sexual satisfaction by harming anothers health..i am diabetic and i can imagine what would happen if i chose this lifestyle...recently, a feeder told me to dump my bf and become his feedee...i was slightly amused and bewildered by it all...its a sad sad fetish if you ask me...

Permalink Reply by BBW_Princess on May 13, 2008 at 3:42pm: I have also been approached by these feeders. I also agree that it is terrible. I want someone to want me for ME for who I am not some fetish that has someone pushing food on me to gain wait for HIS satisfaction. NO ONE is going to make me feel less worthy cus i don't measure up to HIS standards.
I refuse to be ANYONE'S fetish.

Permalink Reply by Gaining_Gabi on May 20, 2008 at 6:11am: I keep getting the sense that is always the mans choice for the other person to gain. But there is many out there that are women who enjoy gaining and getting larger and growing. It is a personal choice for many and I know that you may not understand it, its not because the people who are interested in this way of life, are mentally sick or have low self esteem issues, just some have chose to be what they want and in a relationship or by themselves and there are females who have the desire to grow bigger. Its Not always HIS standards or HIS desires. Many times it is an equal choice between partners. There is even some single women who enjoy gaining and growing and do it on there own because they want to. No one is pushing them do it. I know that you don't understand why a person would want to do this, but I am not quiet sure if you would really want to know.

Permalink Reply by tammy on May 13, 2008 at 9:25pm: You are either missing everyones point completely or just don't care to acknowledge the truth of the situation. NO ONE replying to this post has ever said anything negative about your preference toward super obese woman... On the contrary... I myself said thank god for men that are attracted to bbws. You still dance around the truth and speak only of "fat hating society" and the brain washing "medical community." There is NOTHING WRONG WITH LOVING BIG WOMEN!!! Above you mention 2 members of the feeder community that are diabetics... Did you ever think that maybe they wouldn't be diabetic if they weren't obese? You wont address the facts and you would never admit the danger because then you might have to admit that there is something not quite right about feeding someone till they become immobile. Especially since you are doing it to sexual gratify yourself... Peace out.

Permalink Reply by Gaining_Gabi on May 20, 2008 at 6:13am: Well said!!!

Permalink Reply by Gaining_Gabi on May 20, 2008 at 6:08am: Tara_1973,

It is not neccassary a sexual satisfaction to feed one person. I get the sense that you assume that a person is a feeder and who feeds the feedee or foodee, all this horrible food, but its not even that most of the time. Alot of times a person who is a feeder can do it in a pretty healhty manner, with three meals a day, solid healthy meats, veggies and fruits, without a ton of sugars. You may think of it as a sad sad fetish, but I just get the sense that you may not understand why a person or couple would be interested in it, nor do I see that you would want to understand it either. Am I right?

Permalink Reply by Stacey Dee on May 20, 2008 at 2:02pm: We are not mentally ill! Many of us are very very smart and really have our stuff together.

You may think that someone who is into this extreme feeding, you do not understand or want to understand.

But some of us do desire this and want this. It is a deep rooted desire. Its not that we are crazy or anything like that.

Permalink Reply by Scarlett on May 13, 2008 at 11:08pm: Kudos to all of you who have called this man to the carpet for his victimization of women. I don't care how he tries to wrap it, it's abuse in it's purest form. How could one possibly justify encouraging slow suicide? And to compare it to being homosexual etc is beyond stupid. It's not even in the same realm. The last I knew, being homosexual did not mean one partner was rendered disabled or that they toyed with slow suicide for the sexual enjoyment of their partner.

I find it very interesting that he has yet to comment on the questions posed to him about those who would encourage others with different eating disorders to starve themselves. There is no difference and he knows it...hence his reluctance to reply to the question that has been asked numerous times. And to take this disorder (and yes I said disorder) and try to disguise it as a form of love...give me a break. Self love maybe. Feeders prey on the weak, those with self esteem issues and assorted mental disorders. As for the sex being mind blowing...I'm sure it is...for the feeder...it's not often you find someone willing to kill themselves to feed your sexual fantasies.

So Stephen, when WILL you answer the question about those who might encourage starvation and the difference between that and your disorder?

Permalink Reply by tammy on May 14, 2008 at 8:48am: Scarlett... he wont answer because it would mean that he is admitting that there is something wrong with what he is doing. He keeps repeating the same thing over and over about how someone outside the feeder community can't understand. I think we all understand that feeders probably can't help that they have a fetish for super obesity and making someone bigger for their own pleasure. Just because I understand that people that have fetishes can't help how they feel doesn't make the fetish right. You hit the nail on the head when you said comparing this fetish with homosexuality is totally asinine. There is not victim in homosexuality. For whatever reason one of the partners in the feeder/ feedee relationship is risking their health. That is not true of homosexuality. Stephen and the rest of the feeders can keep telling themselves that there is no health risk in being super obese, but we all know the truth. We know the truth because we live it and see it everyday, not because some doctor told us so.

Permalink Reply by tammy on May 14, 2008 at 8:52pm: You never addressed a single comment I made directly. You never will. You mention a woman starving herself... Thats not what I said... I asked if it is ok for a man that likes thin woman to encourage someone with anorexia to starve themselves. You are missing the point totally. Yes I am a bbw and no I don't think its wrong for someone to be attracted to obese women. Not at all. I do accept and love myself for who I am but I don't kid myself. I know my health will fail if I stay at this weight. I am not saying that because a doctor told me that. I am saying that because I have witnessed it with my own eyes and I know how much better I feel when I lose weight. I am sure the feedees get as much pleasure from what you are doing but just because someone gets pleasure from something doesn't make it right. You will never admit that being obese is a health risk because then you would have to change your behavior or feel guilty about it. This life style is not healthy...I know it... most of the people on this site know it... as much as you say you disagree doctors know it.... and I think deep down inside you know it. Admitting it would be to hard because you enjoy it too much. I am done with this. Good luck to you.

Permalink Reply by tammy on May 16, 2008 at 9:28pm: I think everyone would agree that you did not address a single issue I raised. You just kept informing us over and over about the deep rooted feelings you have. You explained very well how your attraction for obese women. You also explained over and over that the medical community has an agenda, and yadda yadda yadda. I understand your feelings and how this is natural to you... believe me I do. I think we all know where you are coming from. What we don't understand is how you can honestly really and truly think it is healthy to feed someone till they become super obese. I backed up my questions with facts. I made fair comparisons between feederism and other things like encouraging an anorexic person to starve. You never addressed anything with any kind of facts of your own. I do not want some kind of confession as you put it. I just want to know how you justify being a feeder with something besides I do it cause it makes me feel good. Another thing. I never attacked you personally. You attacked me several times. You called me ignorant, intolerant and narrow minded. You went as far as questioning "what kind of woman I am." I never resorted to calling you any names.I think anyone that has read anything I have written on this site can tell that I am a far cry from ignorant. I don't just go willy nilly making assumptions and accusations. I did my research. I came at you with facts, and the questions I raised were valid. Furthermore I am one of the most tolerant people you will ever meet. You don't know me from adam. I only question this one aspect of your life. I would never make assumptions about you as a person based on what I know about this one part of your life. You should have done the same for me. You call me misinformed.... Yet you never tried to inform me with anything but "this is how I feel and you will never understand."

Permalink Reply by tammy on May 17, 2008 at 12:30am: There is yet one more thing that I would like to add... I took this little excerpt from a posting by Stephen on the Feeder group page about how to care for a super obese person." I do not encourage walking at weights greater than 400 lbs due to gravity tearing up knee lining and undue stress on the ligaments and bones." Again I ask... If super obesity is healthy and the human body was meant to be this big then why aren't the knee lining and ligaments and bones able to support that much weight??????????