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Permalink Reply by Lubomira on April 20, 2008 at 6:45pm

LoL...just my luck! Again, all the BBW admirers are in a far off land, or state, that might as well be the moon. I've noticed that Cali, Texas, NC and SC seem to be hot beds along with the UK and Australia for BBW admirers... I guess whats left for me to do it relocate. And thanks by the way. I appreciat the compliment

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Permalink Reply by Allen on April 21, 2008 at 12:16pm

In a State that has about 36 million people, the law of averages kicks in. If just 6% of the guys here like BBW's (and I believe that number is significantly larger than that), that would be 2,160,000 men. Thats the population of the State of Arkansas(or close to it) Don't ask me why the propeller on my head is spinning right now, I'm and answering this at the same time I am working so I am immersing statistics in to my non work stuff.

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Permalink Reply by Jon_B on April 23, 2008 at 8:54pm

We're real... Don't worry! lol

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Permalink Reply by Nenatraviesa on June 25, 2008 at 2:01am

Male comments= about 7, female comments= 1,200.

Ok, so those numbers aren't correct, but it definitely demonstrates the comparison of male to female comment ratios here. Men more comments, let us know you are real!

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Permalink Reply by Ruby on June 25, 2008 at 4:12am

This is a question I have had for years. I am beginning to think maybe there arent any real men. Ones that will be proud to have a BBW on his arm. It seems they are all on line hiding behind there make believe world. I am like you said..........I wont show my attraction for a guy for fear of being laughed at one more time. I am a good woman with wonderful morals..........Its your loss guys, if you dont show you think we are beautiful. I dont want one of the pervs from online that just wants sex.........I want a man that wants it all.

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Permalink Reply by tammy on June 25, 2008 at 10:12am

I have found that there are a lot more bbw admirers out there then we think. The problem is a lot of them are ashamed to admit it to their friends and family because of the ribbing that they get. Men judge each others girlfriends by their looks a lot of time. Its ingrained in them., but in saying all that I will add that there are a few men out there that have the balls to be with whom ever makes them happy. Regardless of their appearance. These are men of integrity. I happen to have found one... woohoooo!!!!!! So don't give up. Hold your head high and just exude some confidence. A little confidence goes a long way. If you think you are beautiful then everyone else will....

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Permalink Reply by organizedmayhem on June 26, 2008 at 7:30pm

You go Tammy... I'm so glad for you! I think I may have found my BBW admirer too. Hang in girls cause it only took 50 yrs for HIM to find me!!

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Permalink Reply by RavishingRuby on June 25, 2008 at 10:28am

It never hurts to search for local bbw admirers through bbw social networking websites and bbw online dating websites. However, If we restrict ourselves to only local bbw admirers the future looks bleak. For even in cities with populations in the millions one can only find a handful of men who identify themselves as BBW admirers. We should focus on being, improving, loving ourselves; men of all sizes can like plus size women.

It is so easy to be discouraged in the local dating scene because we have been told by family, peers, and media that we are less desirable because of our size. It is easy to feel insecure and negative when we see men who are "out of our league" or women who are small beautiful women. And how easy it is to think "oh he doesn't like me because I am fat. if I were just 100 lbs lighter, he'd totally choose me over her." Men are attracted to confident beautiful women. It just so happens that beautiful confident women also come in large sizes.

In the past month, I have met two altogether great guys, through a non-BBW dating website. Men who absolutely adore me for both my personality and appearance, who want long term relationships. It is a strange feeling to be treated like a princess by prince. Both of these men didn't title themselves as "bbw admirers" they just found me attractive and liked who I was. There are so many that don't know they are bbw admirers until the right bbw comes along.

If we focus on enjoying our lives and searching for love, we will find fulfilling relationships. Let us not limit ourselves to only bbw admirers on account of influences, previous experiences, or fears.

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Permalink Reply by Lubomira on June 25, 2008 at 11:35am

I’m begging to think that the problem goes both ways. I find that men tend to limit themselves by what their friends think, and women, myself included, tend to limit themselves to categories they feel they can fit themselves in according to what they think men will perceive them as. I’m a perfect example of that and it goes along with the comment by RavishingRuby.

I see myself as a BBW at a 20/22 depending on whether I’m having a good day or bad, and I can safely say that most people around me would agree that I am a bigger girl. I do have my very dear, bias friends who compliment me on how attractive I am (the “you’re not so big”, and the “you really do have an amazing sex appeal, but you don’t realize it” or my personal favorite “you could have been a plus size model”), but if that image isn’t reinforced by the opinions of the outside world, it can send mixed messages. Now rather than turn to the world and tell them where they can go, I tend to role my eyes, smile, and nod. I’ll give you one guess who I think is lying or just being nice in this situation; my friends. It’s rather scary when you think about. It begs the question of whose opinion do you really value?

Going along that mindset, I thought that I could only limit myself to BBW sites. I felt as if I had to place myself in an environment where I knew I would be accepted. Now, there is nothing wrong with that. There’s nothing wrong with trying to be comfortable, but there is something wrong with you believing you have no right to mingle with the general public, that you aren’t worthy of being with everyone else besides the category you perceived.

I was on so many BBW sites and getting nowhere. Ironically, I met some really bad apples that should be ashamed of themselves for treating me the way they did just for the simple fact that they have mothers and sisters in their lives. I thought that by placing myself on a BBW site it shielded me from hurt. A very painful and very real lesson I had to learn the hard way.

I started signing up for the “regular” dating sites and I started to find that there were some nice guys there. I talked to a few, but even then I felt I needed to make the point that I was a BBW. A few of them had no idea what that was, some cared, and some didn’t. One particular conversation made truly reflect on my own perception.

The guy said he was looking for the “average, normal, nice girl who he could take home to mom.” I smiled and quickly directed his attention to the site and the other girls it had to offer. Without realizing it, I had eliminated myself from the opportunity of getting to know this person on more than a platonic level simply because I felt like I didn’t fit that definition.

He picked up on the hints and finally asked “Do you not like me or something?” When I told him that I didn’t think I was his type he seemed confused. I clarified that I was a BBW and his answer was “AND?... You are a girl right? You have all your limbs? You speak English? You laugh at my corny joke? What’s the problem? You’re not a day pass from the loony bin?” We’ve been going out for a few months now and for the first time in my life I believe and trust someone I’m dating.

By limiting ourselves online or not, it isn’t doing us any favors. We also have to be honest with ourselves and determine if we aren’t part of the problem too. I hope I haven’t offended anyone by saying that.

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Permalink Reply by Ruby on June 26, 2008 at 12:23am

I had not thought in this way before. You have a good point. I too limit myself to BBW sites and to so called BBW admirers. Just maybe..................BBW admirer means "Playa that loves the big girls................." Not all but there seem to be more pervs than good guys. Thanks for your thoughts.

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Permalink Reply by organizedmayhem on June 26, 2008 at 10:39pm

You know what ladies? I've actually met more men on NON-BBW sites than on BBW sites. Not all of the guys on the BBW sites are players, but unfortunately many are just preying on those they consider desperate. Remember, WE are not desperate and do not need to settle.

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Permalink Reply by JustMe on June 27, 2008 at 4:10pm

I can tell you what happened to them here in South Florida.... All of the gays and lesbians who stepped out of their closets are now renting them to the bbw admirers

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