cyber love = cheating?

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Posted by Daniel Boyer on August 19, 2007 at 3:58pm in Love & Relationships

is having fun on the net is cheating in your mind if you are in a loving relationship?

Permalink Reply by Lisa on August 19, 2007 at 5:29pm: I think this is a question only your partner can answer. You have to talk with your partner and come up with agreement on it. It's cheating if you do it behind your loved one's back or if you do it KNOWING they are not comfortable with it. In my opinion *wink*; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by secretsquirrel13 on August 19, 2007 at 6:18pm: I agree with Lisa....if its something you keep hidden from your partner, then yes, it IS cheating. If the talk becomes sexual, then definately! Thats something that should be shared with the person you are in a relationship with....If you feel you have to hide it from your partner...then that should be an indication that you should not be doing it in the first place....relationships are based on trust...or they should be...; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by SexySandi on August 20, 2007 at 10:58am: My personal feeling is if you or someone else is married or in a serious relationship and ur playing around on cam or saying things to each other that involve each other and not ur partner....Then its cheating....; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Kirsty on August 20, 2007 at 1:48pm: It depends how far it all goes to be honest, sometimes a little fun flirting turns into something that could get more than just you hurt.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Phil on August 20, 2007 at 3:32pm: I flirt in real life and my wife accepts it so online is not any different. However we both know it goes no further. If she flirts thats fine too. It's where you go for real love that counts.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by John Adrian Davis Cottrell on August 20, 2007 at 4:53pm: I think chatting on the net shouldn't be constrewed as cheating any more than just talking to a person of the opposite sex face to face but if physical contact comes into play it depends how far that physical contact goes. Touching of private parts of the other person is considered cheating by most people though showing parts like boobage or tackle on cam means the other person only looks, can't touch - no offence committed!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by secretsquirrel13 on August 20, 2007 at 5:14pm: I feel that if I caught my man looking at some chick playing with herself on cam, and he was getting off on it...yes..cheating...I am the only women he needs to be looking at...I also look at it from a spiritual point of view (which I am aware most people are NOT spiritual) for myself...it is written "If a man looks at another women with lust in his heart, then he has commited adultery"...NOW...I will NOT get into a discussion of my beliefs...this is my point of view, and a basis for my feelings on this subject......and that is all....like I said before..if your woman has no problem with it, then its dandy for you..but if you hide it knowing she would not be pleased..then its wrong...; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Krissy on August 20, 2007 at 8:56pm: If a man (or woman) were merely surfing and checking out pics, that's one thing...and some partners/spouses wouldn't even be comfortable with that. But the internet has made it possible to interact while "looking". When interaction takes place, yes, it's cheating...unless your partner is aware and approves. Look how far technology has taken us. You mean to tell me that if technological advances of the future allowed you to reach out and cop a feel, you'd decline to do it? Where will you draw the line then?

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Permalink Reply by RavishingRuby on August 24, 2007 at 1:51pm: Okay, the picture above helps me illustrate my perspective.
When you flirt online you're expending emotions and romantic thoughts that aren't being dedicated to the person you are in a loving relationship with. A girls worst fear, in a great relationship, is that her sweetheart has fallen out of love, being romantic with someone else marks the beginning of the end. Girl = Heartbroken. For a guy it may be easy to strug off a flirt with another woman as a meaningless act (he doesn't love the girl he's flirting with, etc.) but it isn't right to mislead two women. There is always the posibility that the cyber love is taking your comments to heart. And you shouldn't have to lie (1) to your cyber love or (2) to your real world significant other (about not cybering, etc.) to get "your needs met". If you are aroused, get it done. Cybering should lose its appeal if you took care of it beforehand. If you truly love the person you are with, avoiding cyber love should be a tolerable thing to obstain from. I am SURE if there were something you perceived a threat to the integrity of your relationship you would want him or her to obstain for the sake of your perception.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by derek on August 24, 2007 at 2:35pm: The sad truth is that us men view it differantly then women. Doesnt make it right. It does depend on your partner on what you can and can not do. As for me if most times if I am in a room and I get excited from viewing or xrated chatting, most times i log off and take care of bussiness b4 I go to bed or out. (not nice to have blueballs) But I would be a lier if I said I have never did a show online to please a woman while I got off with. There is a safety factor of a online sexual experience but us guys thing with our cocks not our hearts. As if you women didnt already know that. If chat long enough with a person you can get to know what they are about but you never really get to know them if you only chat online. Therefore if you dont get a number or a address more likley its only a internet affair and you take it for what its worth. Ciao ( sorry I misspelled anything); ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by IrishPrincessPA on September 11, 2007 at 10:28pm: I just want to say that I do think its cheating....I found some things on my x bf's myspace acct to 2 other females. And it hurt ALOT. I dont know if it went any farther then "Cyberworld" or not. Either way it's people sharing emotions that should be shared with only ur s/o. Innocent flirting is fine....but when it comes to actually being 1 on 1 with a sexual chat then its not a good thing. Things can get outta hand real quick with all that, people have feelings. I would never mind my s/o checking out nudes or even watching porn, thats all Ok, its when it starts to be a 1 on 1 thing thats not OK. I think there is a fine line there and when it's crossed it can really hurt alot of people.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Annie on September 12, 2007 at 3:42am: I think a bit of harmless flirting is acceptable and can be good for the relationship.It's when it's taken further that it becomes hurtful and in my mind cheating. The real answer would be both partners talking about it and getting each others opinion on the subject and and go from there!; ▶ Reply to This